In my work as a mental health therapist I meet people every day, myself included at times, who feel frustrated, hopeless, helpless and demoralized by their inability to change.  Blaming themselves and believing that something is wrong with them they fall into depressed self hatred and self punishment.

Why is it so difficult to change?  What does it take to change?  If people understood this they would not hate and denigrate themselves for failing to change.  This is why I am writing this artic...
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As I write this piece, I notice that I am subtly, almost imperceptibly, pondering my motives in writing this. I am aware of a subtle, almost imperceptible resistance to noticing that beyond my desire to help I want to be noticed, appreciated, liked, admired, adored even!

And as I admit this, my shame becomes all-too-obvious; almost overwhelming. While I am tempted to avoid, push away, and ignore the elephant in the living room, I won't.

In my shame I am tempted to abandon this writing, abandoni...
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Me, “We should all get what we want!”

You, “Then, why don’t we?”

Me, “We do!”

You, “What do you mean?  I don’t want pain and I have it.”

Me, “You do want pain, you just don’t want to know that you want it.”

You, “I can see not wanting to know I want pain, but why would I want pain?”

Me , “To justify your misery.”

You, “But pain came first, then my misery.”

Me, “That is a question of the chicken and the egg; which came first?”

You, ...
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More deep wisdom from A Course in Miracles clearly describing the lesson that miracles were sent to teach:

"The miracle returns the cause of fear to you who made it.  But it also shows that, having no effects, it is not cause, because the function of causation is to have effects.  And where effects are gone, there is no cause.  Thus is the body healed by miracles because they show the mind made sickness, and employed the body to be the victim, or effect of what it made.  Yet half the lesson wi...
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The purpose of life is simply to enjoy and extend a nice feeling (love).  Life gave us this nice feeling as it made us.  Actually, this is what we are – a nice feeling (love). That is why the sages throughout time have always said, “Look within”, when directing us out of our suffering. 

If this is the case, why don’t we experience this nice feeling but for fleeting moments, like when we are drifting off to sleep, or just waking up before we start thinking and remembering, or when we a...
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