Posted by Ricardo Hidalgo on Saturday, March 17, 2012,
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 My worst fear is being arrogant and insensitive, and I do all I can to be humble and sensitive. Yet, inevitably, there are times when I am arrogant and insensitive. What gives? Why does this occur in spite of my abhorrence of arrogance and insensitivity; in spite of my best efforts to avoid being this way? Is there something wrong with me? Am I weak? If you are like me you will identify with what you read here.
I just realized some things that answer these questions and bring me relief. ...
Posted by Ricardo Hidalgo on Thursday, March 8, 2012,
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Well-being
Here is a beautiful description from A Course in Miracles of the gifts forgiveness offers. There is nothing you could want that forgiveness cannot give. Forgiveness offers: • Peace • Happiness • A quiet mind • A certainty of purpose • A sense of worth and beauty that transcends the world • Care and safety • The warmth of sure protection always • A quietness that cannot be disturbed • A gentleness that never can be hurt • A deep, abiding comfort • ... Continue reading ...
Posted by Ricardo Hidalgo on Saturday, March 3, 2012,
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I have come to see that we all have innate mental health. No matter how confused, ill or lost we get, we all have access to wisdom. Sometimes we just need a little help or guidance to get back to it. I see it as my job to provide this guidance in a supportive, non-judgmental, sensitive, playful, and sometimes firm way that allows people to feel safe and at ease.There is no mental, emotional, psychological, or spiritual distress that wisdom cannot heal. Our suffering comes from nothing more th... Continue reading ...
Posted by Ricardo Hidalgo on Wednesday, February 22, 2012,
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In my work as a mental health therapist I meet people every day, myself included at times, who feel frustrated, hopeless, helpless and demoralized by their inability to change. Blaming themselves and believing that something is wrong with them they fall into depressed self hatred and self punishment.Why is it so difficult to change? What does it take to change? If people understood this they would not hate and denigrate themselves for failing to change. This is why I am writing this artic... Continue reading ...
Posted by Ricardo Hidalgo on Monday, February 20, 2012,
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Well-being
As I write this piece, I notice that I am subtly, almost imperceptibly, pondering my motives in writing this. I am aware of a subtle, almost imperceptible resistance to noticing that beyond my desire to help I want to be noticed, appreciated, liked, admired, adored even!And as I admit this, my shame becomes all-too-obvious; almost overwhelming. While I am tempted to avoid, push away, and ignore the elephant in the living room, I won't.In my shame I am tempted to abandon this writing, abandoni... Continue reading ...
Posted by Ricardo Hidalgo on Sunday, February 19, 2012,
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Well-being
 A dialogue between me and youMe, “We should all get what we want!” You, “Then, why don’t we?” Me, “We do!” You, “What do you mean? I don’t want pain and I have it.” Me, “You do want pain, you just don’t want to know that you want it.” You, “I can see not wanting to know I want pain, but why would I want pain?” Me , “To justify your misery.” You, “But pain came first, then my misery.” Me, “That is a question of the chicken and the egg; which came first?” You, ... Continue reading ...
Posted by Ricardo Hidalgo on Sunday, February 12, 2012,
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Well-being
 Where does anger come from? No, not from what happens, but from what we think about what happens; from our opinion about what happens. Without an opinion, what happens is just what happens. As Shakespeare said, “There is nothing good or bad. Thinking makes it so.”
All experience comes through the three principles - mind, thought, and consciousness. No mind, no experience. No thought, no experience. No consciousness, no experience. Until people realize this fact they feel like helple...
Posted by Ricardo Hidalgo on Sunday, February 5, 2012,
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The purpose of life is simply to enjoy and extend a nice feeling (love). Life gave us this nice feeling as it made us. Actually, this is what we are – a nice feeling (love). That is why the sages throughout time have always said, “Look within”, when directing us out of our suffering. If this is the case, why don’t we experience this nice feeling but for fleeting moments, like when we are drifting off to sleep, or just waking up before we start thinking and remembering, or when we a... Continue reading ...
Posted by Ricardo Hidalgo on Tuesday, January 17, 2012,
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Well-being
Being a psychotherapist, there is not a day goes by that I don't sit with people who are anxious, including myself. The thing is, if they could find what would reassure them, they would not be seeing me. In other words, anxiety becomes a problem when nothing reassures; and finding nothing that reassures becomes, itself, a source of anxiety, leaving people caught in a downward vicious cycle.Enter a deep-enough understanding of the three principles behind all experience to the rescue. These ... Continue reading ...
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